Allow us move on from the question of gentlemen onto fathers. If faced with a crying child, do you call out for its mother or break out into baby language, dance and drama while reaching out to the little one?
The answer you give will go to show if you are a modern dad flowing with the times or still stuck on the role of fathers of yesteryears. Our roles as fathers seem to be evolving every other day.
It is continuously moving away from casual overseer role and logistics management to include small things like knowing at what temperature the baby likes its milk, changing diapers and conjuring up tall stories to have the little ones eat more of their food.
According to some comparison of daddy figures released by the government, in the 60s dads spent an average of 2½ hours per week on child-caring duties compared to 10 hours a week by mothers. By the 2000s, fathers had upped their game to eight hours a week of caring for the children while mothers spent 14 hours.
The findings also show up to 90 per cent of fathers are hands-on with bathing, dressing and diaper changing. About 80 per cent get involved in their child’s daily activities and a good number do sit down for homework time.
I have a feeling if the average UK household had a maid like you do back home, these daddy involvement figures would be much lower than what they are right now.
The luxury of a young father hanging out every evening at the local bar and then spending the weekend on Premiership football can only be attained after knowing the maid and mama baby are putting in the needed child care hours.
I wonder how many young mothers would tolerate such selfish behaviour if they didn’t have the support of a maid or close relative living with them. There is plenty that the world throws at a child growing up in these times, right from telly to video games, internet, all the way to issues such as ‘daddy put for me cartoons on your laptop.’
A maid may not be the best qualified person to guide a child through the maze of the so-called modern life. Try pulling that Monday to Friday bar routine around here and there is a good chance the government through social services will give you a good talking to on your responsibilities as a father, or worse, take over the care of your children.
The one responsibility they are always kind enough to leave you with in such a situation is a continuous child maintenance bill which keeps on rolling until your child attains the age of adulthood.
The thinking behind this is that fathers are equally important to the well-being of their children, just as mothers are. Our hands-on involvement in the lives of our children does add a lot to the social and emotional development of the child, and of course brownie points with the missus.
But we must also accept that there are certain things best left to the mothers, especially if the child is still new. Yes, you can confidently hold and cuddle the baby as much as you want, but if the little one insists on being upset, the only thing that may do is a breast feed.
This, because of the very fact that you are daddy, you can never do it.